Remember that each event can be evaluated differently. Reality - this is not what he sees each separately, it result of an agreement between people. So please be tolerant and generous towards those who are trying to hurt you - they are not all in this life understand Never say bad about yourself, especially to avoid the negative traits attributed his - "Old", "stupid", "ugly", "unlucky", "failure". Remember that a provision - in fact, good luck, and thanks to him, you can conclude that pursuing a false target, and happily avoid the larger slovenly. Stop over-protect yourself - you are much stronger and more plastic than Seem. It is better to try a short-term impact than remain idle. And do not forget the most important thing in life a new rule: Do not get bogged down in the past and live in the present and strive for the future! .
American psychologists advise: the best thing you can do after a divorce for their children - is more likely to marry. Typically, the second marriage woman much easier to build relationships with new husband than the first. But history can not be repeated twice and the second marriage will never be similar to the first. How will refer the child to her stepfather, largely depends on you. If your for serious, try to introduce a new darling in the home. Remember that no one should be consulted on this matter - you are a woman is free and may be friends with whoever you want. Need to be prepared that the child did not immediately fall in love with her stepfather: its appearance in the house as it is not natural, how unnatural the disappearance of his father. Babies react to such changes emotionally: capricious, become stubborn, intractable, tearful, helpless.
Preschoolers clearly about their feelings can not say, and start walking for my mother "tail", it says that the child needs a manifestation of your love. Adolescents perceive the arrival of his stepfather openly unfriendly. They say a direct text that does not want to see the house of a stranger. Please be patient. Do not despair. Remember that children are conservative, and take your vote as a "probationary" Do not place the child in the position of choice between his own father and stepfather. All of the above applies to the case, if the house comes a new mom. Do not rest on the child, wait until he changed his attitude to the neutral ("Okay so to marry this ") or positive. But if the child continues to strongly object to, look closely to their relationship - perhaps the threat of a potential member of the family is real? A successful marriage is quite clear that with husband (wife) you get a whole set of new relatives, who from time to time will appear on the horizon. You can make this meeting unbearable, you can neutralize them, but you can put them to use common the interests of your children. There is a notion of "happy marriage". Remember the song: not to drink or smoke, and gave flowers to his wife, mother in law called my mother "A second marriage, too, can become successful, but under the condition: when you can find in their forced relatives are not enemies or rivals, and friends. The more your child will be loved ones - the better, more stable it will stand upright in their lives.